Courtesy
It’s an open secret that most men
dislike weddings. To most men, a
wedding is pretty much a woman’s
affair in which they (men) are
nagged to participate. Men’s
lackadaisical attitude at weddings
speaks it all.
Knowing what weddings mean to
women, men, being sly and cunning
as they are, engineered a scam that
has (and still is) going on without
women being any wiser. Men promise
women weddings and to make the
deal sweeter, they engage them.
Unfortunately, that is where it ends.
They struggle to live happily ever
after without necessarily going the
whole hog to say ‘I do’.
Unknown to many women, perhaps, is
the adage that a man who can’t lie,
can’t marry!
December, a month in which many
weddings take place, came and
went. Many weddings took place but
a couple were postponed not for the
first, second or third time, but for
the umpteenth time.
A friend to this writer shocked him
with details of a frustrated woman,
Nduta, who has been duped into an
‘engagement marathon’ for 23 solid
years. However, when contacted for
a phone interview, she never
confirmed or denied the allegations.
But implicitly gave credence to the
allegation by her careful and well
thought-out answers as she shyly
turned down an interview request.
“Some things happen in life and
there is nothing you can do about
them. In fact, I had even forgotten
that I’m still engaged, you have just
reminded me. You can’t force a man
to wed you. I’m afraid I will not
reveal private things to a nosy
journalist I have not even met,” she
said.
Cynthia has been engaged for close
to 21 years. Apparently, 21 years
ago, at a swanky hotel in Mombasa
where they both lived then, her man
went on his knee with a tiny box in
his hand and proposed, complete with
a speech. In his speech, Cynthia’s
husband waxed lyrical about how
much he loved her; how he wanted to
wed and spend his entire life with
her, make babies and whatnot.
Cynthia, smitten and excited,
immediately got into a frenzy;
informing her friends, showing off
her engagement ring and planning
for her wedding. In a strange turn
of events, when the planned date
approached, she was expectant. The
wedding was called off,
indefinitely.
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